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CHANGING YOUR
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There are 11 core mental patterns of failure. Whenever you have been unable to: · Stop feeling certain emotions · Do what you know you should do · Say no to things that you know are not good for you, like cigarettes, dessert or a bad relationship · Motivate yourself to move ahead in your career, finances or relationships ...I guarantee that you are running some or all of these 11 failure patterns. You may not be running them in all areas of your life, but they are most certainly running in those 'frustrating' areas where you want to change. Where you can't seem to control yourself. Where you know what you should do and say, but don't do it. Where you can't break that bad habit. If those failure patterns don't get rewired, they will always be there controlling your every emotion and action. Unless you get deep down, clear out those old ways of thinking, and condition in the necessary new patterns to cause change, then your current, undesired, strongest and deepest mental patterns will always be the ones that rise up and automatically take over. Remember, unless you change the way you think and feel: · You'll light another cigarette · You'll have another panic attack · You won't achieve the meaningful goal · You'll continue to loathe exercising · You'll reach for snacks and desserts · You'll continue to feel depressed and hopeless · You'll continue in whatever your particular problem is. Until you break that cycle by rewiring those old patterns of failure-not by telling you what you should do, or teaching, or giving you a how-to manual- but in one of the same ways that they were conditioned in-by time and repetition.
If you change your thinking and don't back it up with repetitive actions.........
you'll leave a void which can lead to other unwanted thought patterns taking over, like stopping smoking and replacing it with overeating. If you change your thinking and don’t change the underlying belief systems, then you're painting a poorly prepared surface, and the 'rust' of your old bad habits and thought patterns will bubble up and come through soon enough. Lasting change requires not only changing beliefs, but changing thinking, along with behavior and action that is congruent with the new underlying beliefs. Repetition and consistency in positive contrary action and behavior creates new ingrained thinking and finally turns into not just a belief but a new truth and a "knowing" A certainty.
There are 11 major mental patterns that cause fear, worry, depression & failure to consistently work against lasting change. These are what keep you stuck and are what blocks you from being able to motivate yourself. These are the 11 mental patterns of failure that cause an inability to feel or perform the way you desire in any situation. Some of these patterns are running constantly, for example, They can be both conscious (aware) or unconscious (unaware) programmed thoughts and emotions, directing you to do the same old things and feel the same old ways that you always have, no matter how much you want to change. As you read the list of the failure patterns below, think long and hard about yourself and your own past results... and note how many of them seem to be describing you! Free yourself of these, and reaching your desired change will be clear sailing...
FAILURE PATTERN #1 Self-esteem and Self-image
Many people believe deep down that they're just not 'good enough,' or they just can't imagine themselves being 'different' than they are now. This is a very common failure pattern, and is present is many more people than you may think. Even wildly successful people from all walks of life report feelings that they're just not 'that good' or don't quite 'measure up.' If you don't believe deep down that you deserve to have a specific goal or characteristic, or can't see yourself having it or being that person, you won't really go for it and do the things it would take to get it. The truth is, you ARE good enough, you CAN be that new person Right Now! go for any shred of the opposite view and behave in that manner.
FAILURE PATTERN #2 Replaying past failures repeatedly in your mind
Do you ever find, after making a mistake, that you keep replaying it and all your frustration about it over and over in your mind? Beating yourself up over mistakes and not appreciating the good you've done is a perfect way to destroy motivation and discourage yourself from any further attempt at action. The truth is everyone makes mistakes and mistakes are a perfectly acceptable way to learn. Tell yourself mistakes are not failures, they are lessons. And the only way to learn not to make them is to go through them to the other side of success. No matter what your thinking tells you - pick yourself up and try again.
FAILURE PATTERN #3 Blaming your problem or failure on circumstances or on other people
Grudges, jealousy, resentment and anger brew bitterness and take your mind off of the most important things... accomplishing worthy goals or making positive changes. Blaming serves only one purpose... making you feel like a victim. And victims don't have power over their lives. The only way to dissolve away all that anger and resentment so you can accept responsibility for your own life, and focus on doing what you need to do to reach your desired goals is through acceptance and forgiveness. When you place blame on other people, you also place your power to change in their hands. As long as you are waiting for them to change, you don’t take responsibility for you own needs to change. It doesn’t matter if it seems fair or not, or if you deserve their treatment of you. What you do deserve is to treat yourself differently, move past what is holding you back and move forward under you own momentum. There is always a choice to do what is right for you.
FAILURE PATTERN #4 Lack of confidence
This can range from a small, lingering doubt to total disbelief in your ability to reach your goal, whether it be a physical, mental, social, professional or financial goal. Whether it's driven by a fear of humiliation, by past failures, by lack of knowledge or fear of rejection, having little or no faith when trying to reach a goal can cause procrastination, and/or half-hearted efforts, if you ever do start working toward your goal. Acting as if, practice and congruent behavior easily scrambles this pattern and opens you up to unstoppable confidence in your ability to achieve what you want. Visualize yourself walking straight up to the person you think you could never introduce yourself to, feel the feelings of confidence, see yourself with a smile on your face, assertively putting your hand and best foot forward. Practice this scenario over and over in your mind, then practice it with someone you trust.....but most importantly "do" it until you become comfortable with it. Contrary action over time changes beliefs and thinking.
FAILURE PATTERN #5 Positive neuro-associations to unsupportive behaviors, people or things
In order to achieve a challenging goal or make any big change, it's almost certain that you'll need to break some old, familiar, comfortable routines and 'rewire' some of your unsupportive neuro-associations. These are behavior related chemical changes that hardwire the brains memory pathways. These may be unconscious habits or behaviors you've had for decades. Examples include a love for cigarettes or desserts, being a couch potato or spending an inordinate amount of time making personal phone calls on company time. Regardless of the goal, the ability to let go of old, unsupportive routines and habits is crucial, because they can be gigantic roadblocks to your success. It is almost impossible to say, "I will stop doing (that)". Because as soon as you try work against a ingrained pattern the more resistant it becomes. A better way to achieve lasting change is to say, "I will start doing (this instead). One way of thinking moves your energy against something - the other way moves your energy towards something new. Forward energy in motion is much easier to achieve.
FAILURE PATTERN #6 Negative feelings/associations about any goal supporting habits/behaviors
If you change your thinking and don't back it up with repetitive actions.........
you'll leave a void which can lead to other unwanted thought patterns taking over, like stopping smoking and replacing it with overeating. If you change your thinking and don’t change the underlying belief systems, then you're painting a poorly prepared surface, and the 'rust' of your old bad habits and thought patterns will bubble up and come through soon enough. Lasting change requires not only changing beliefs, but changing thinking, along with behavior and action that is congruent with the new underlying beliefs. Repetition and consistency in positive contrary action and behavior creates new ingrained thinking and finally turns into not just a belief but a new truth and a "knowing" A certainty.
There are 11 major mental patterns that cause fear, worry, depression & failure to consistently work against lasting change. These are what keep you stuck and are what blocks you from being able to motivate yourself. These are the 11 mental patterns of failure that cause an inability to feel or perform the way you desire in any situation. Some of these patterns are running constantly, for example, They can be both conscious (aware) or unconscious (unaware) programmed thoughts and emotions, directing you to do the same old things and feel the same old ways that you always have, no matter how much you want to change. As you read the list of the failure patterns below, think long and hard about yourself and your own past results... and note how many of them seem to be describing you! Free yourself of these, and reaching your desired change will be clear sailing...
FAILURE PATTERN #1 Self-esteem and Self-image
Many people believe deep down that they're just not 'good enough,' or they just can't imagine themselves being 'different' than they are now. This is a very common failure pattern, and is present is many more people than you may think. Even wildly successful people from all walks of life report feelings that they're just not 'that good' or don't quite 'measure up.' If you don't believe deep down that you deserve to have a specific goal or characteristic, or can't see yourself having it or being that person, you won't really go for it and do the things it would take to get it. The truth is, you ARE good enough, you CAN be that new person Right Now! go for any shred of the opposite view and behave in that manner.
FAILURE PATTERN #2 Replaying past failures repeatedly in your mind
Do you ever find, after making a mistake, that you keep replaying it and all your frustration about it over and over in your mind? Beating yourself up over mistakes and not appreciating the good you've done is a perfect way to destroy motivation and discourage yourself from any further attempt at action. The truth is everyone makes mistakes and mistakes are a perfectly acceptable way to learn. Tell yourself mistakes are not failures, they are lessons. And the only way to learn not to make them is to go through them to the other side of success. No matter what your thinking tells you - pick yourself up and try again.
FAILURE PATTERN #3 Blaming your problem or failure on circumstances or on other people
Grudges, jealousy, resentment and anger brew bitterness and take your mind off of the most important things... accomplishing worthy goals or making positive changes. Blaming serves only one purpose... making you feel like a victim. And victims don't have power over their lives. The only way to dissolve away all that anger and resentment so you can accept responsibility for your own life, and focus on doing what you need to do to reach your desired goals is through acceptance and forgiveness. When you place blame on other people, you also place your power to change in their hands. As long as you are waiting for them to change, you don’t take responsibility for you own needs to change. It doesn’t matter if it seems fair or not, or if you deserve their treatment of you. What you do deserve is to treat yourself differently, move past what is holding you back and move forward under you own momentum. There is always a choice to do what is right for you.
FAILURE PATTERN #4 Lack of confidence
This can range from a small, lingering doubt to total disbelief in your ability to reach your goal, whether it be a physical, mental, social, professional or financial goal. Whether it's driven by a fear of humiliation, by past failures, by lack of knowledge or fear of rejection, having little or no faith when trying to reach a goal can cause procrastination, and/or half-hearted efforts, if you ever do start working toward your goal. Acting as if, practice and congruent behavior easily scrambles this pattern and opens you up to unstoppable confidence in your ability to achieve what you want. Visualize yourself walking straight up to the person you think you could never introduce yourself to, feel the feelings of confidence, see yourself with a smile on your face, assertively putting your hand and best foot forward. Practice this scenario over and over in your mind, then practice it with someone you trust.....but most importantly "do" it until you become comfortable with it. Contrary action over time changes beliefs and thinking.
FAILURE PATTERN #5 Positive neuro-associations to unsupportive behaviors, people or things
In order to achieve a challenging goal or make any big change, it's almost certain that you'll need to break some old, familiar, comfortable routines and 'rewire' some of your unsupportive neuro-associations. These are behavior related chemical changes that hardwire the brains memory pathways. These may be unconscious habits or behaviors you've had for decades. Examples include a love for cigarettes or desserts, being a couch potato or spending an inordinate amount of time making personal phone calls on company time. Regardless of the goal, the ability to let go of old, unsupportive routines and habits is crucial, because they can be gigantic roadblocks to your success. It is almost impossible to say, "I will stop doing (that)". Because as soon as you try work against a ingrained pattern the more resistant it becomes. A better way to achieve lasting change is to say, "I will start doing (this instead). One way of thinking moves your energy against something - the other way moves your energy towards something new. Forward energy in motion is much easier to achieve.
FAILURE PATTERN #6 Negative feelings/associations about any goal supporting habits/behaviors
Achieving worthy goals frequently involves adopting new routines that you may not currently find fun or desirable. But they are essential for your success. These may include sticking to a regular exercise routine, eating vegetables instead of 'junk,' or managing your time more effectively during your workday, with less personal phone calls. Unless you clear away some or most of the negative associations to your goal supporting behaviors, you will be doomed to fail. Positive Contrary action helps melt away all resistance you may have (whether conscious or unconscious) to the tasks and decisions required to get where you want to be. Just do something new no matter how small it may seem and do it consistently.
FAILURE PATTERN #7 Fear or anxiety about achieving (or not achieving) your desired change or goal
Although you may truly long to change something about yourself, there's also the unknown element: What will life be like afterward? Or, what will life be like if I fail? This can generate tremendous fear and anxiety, and cause you to either dismiss your goal, put forth only a half- hearted effort, or thwart your own progress just as you're getting close to achieving what you thought you wanted. Imagine yourself as the new you with ease and grace, visualize the new things you will be doing right down to the last detail, hear the sounds that accompany the new visualization, smell the smells, see the new results as if they were already taking place, describe it, write it down. Say soothing, stress-relieving clearing statements to yourself - all this will program and encourage your mind to dissolve and release all fear and anxiety about the future, about the unknown, and about your ability to be happy with the 'new you.'
FAILURE PATTERN #8 Mentally 'blowing up' the size of your tasks and responsibilities
Regardless of their 'true' size, when tasks feel big and difficult, it's often hard to get motivated to even begin. Unless you can truly develop the mental habit of experiencing and plotting the steps toward your goal as small, manageable chunks, you'll cause yourself a lot of undue stress, you'll be less effective, and you may even give up on your aim altogether. By breaking down tasks or responsibility in small baby steps, and then putting just that much effort in to complete that small step - huge tasks and overwhelming responsibilities become small manageable chunks of time and effort. let go of the habit of seeing and feeling your important outcomes as huge, dangerous, impossible tasks, and focus on what you can do right now this minute to begin making a small difference. Small differences acumulate into big accomplishments.
FAILURE PATTERN #9 Blowing temporary setbacks up to seem huge and permanent
No matter what you're undertaking, whether it's a physical, financial, professional, mental or social goal, there are bound to be short-term setbacks on the way. When temporary setbacks 'look or feel' large, unsolvable and permanent, you get trapped into a state that doesn't allow you to get answers, or have access to all your mental and physical resources. Unless you can totally accept that setbacks will occur and keep them in perspective when they do, you are open to worry, anxiety and depression...and are likely to quit. Persistent, consistent, positive effort creates perseverance. Stumbling blocks are just a bump in the road they are not "Black Holes" that will swallow you alive. The truth is every single problem has a solution and you can condition your mind to see stumbling blocks as challenges and opportunities to overcome them and keep your problems small in your mind, so that you can think clearly and make the right decisions when they need to be made.
FAILURE PATTERN #10 Constant mental pictures of future failure or tragedy
It's always wise to plan for the unexpected, but... ...When you focus a bulk of your mental activity on what could go wrong; if you see nothing but rotten images and failure, it is impossible to be optimistic and hopeful. Disaster thinking, or focusing only on what can go wrong causes you a lot of needless anxiety. And then you're many times more likely to take the 'easy way out' and quit on your goal. The truth is each and every shadow has a light on the other side to cast that shadow. You can command your mind to throw away all pictures of gloom and doom, so you can be open to and embrace the light of your successes. See the opposite outcome and over and over in your mind and imagine yourself stepping into that picture.
FAILURE PATTERN #11 Developing real physical symptoms & illnesses
The 10 mental patterns listed above can cause incredible anxiety, hopelessness and ultimately, prevent you from getting what you want. Physical symptoms can arise from the stress, including stomach problems, rapid pulse, headaches, high blood pressure, fatigue, sleeplessness, and even some cancers. Our unconscious minds can also conjure up psychosomatic symptoms in order to 'help' us avoid facing things we don't wish to face or to give us an excuse to quit. The truth is the mind is a power tool and the power of beliefe can create "a reality in your life" Thoughts become things. People with multiple personalities have been known and scientifically documented to change their blood chemistry when they shift to the personality that has diabeties in a matter of seconds. Stomach cancers in these people magically appear and disappear just a quickly when they shift from one person to the other. Just think if this powerful process of belief and knowing were consistently reversed to thoughts of health and well-being?
Those are the 11 patterns of failure. How many times did you see yourself? In addition, now you have a better understanding as to why clearing is so vital. These failure patterns are so strong and controlling, they absolutely must be rewired if you want to succeed in making a change in yourself or reaching a goal. During the clearing process... As the thought and belief patterns that are unsupportive to your goal appear(whether it's starting a habit, ending a habit, increasing confidence ect.) take a contrary action to make a dent in the pattern. Belief patterns are getting reversed and scrambled whenever you take actions that are opposite to your unwanted old patterns. Take the word "can’t" out of your vocabulary and start using empowered, can- do thoughts and attitudes common to people who have easily achieved the same change or goal you are after. So as your new thoughts and belief patterns get conditioned into you through new behavior, it will gradually start to seem natural and easy to do the things that may now seem frightening or impossible... ...Just like the people who feel and perform exactly how you want to feel and perform. They learned thier behaviors and got thier results through practicing them over and over till they became natural character traits.
The "truth’s" we operate on are often lies we have told ourselves over a period of years. Whether they were voiced by others, created over one time traumatic experiences we have had, or were slowly ingrained over time in conjunction with behaviors to accompany them. They can be changed through the same process of learning new behaviors, actions, which become thoughts and finally new beliefs.
The choice to change is yours and yours alone - if you back your new choices up with clear consistent action and follow through over a period of time......you will create the new person you want to be and live the life that you formerly imagined will become your reality.
Change your "truth" and you change your life!
What do you want your life to look like? Make a healthy choice! And make that choice your truth.
FAILURE PATTERN #7 Fear or anxiety about achieving (or not achieving) your desired change or goal
Although you may truly long to change something about yourself, there's also the unknown element: What will life be like afterward? Or, what will life be like if I fail? This can generate tremendous fear and anxiety, and cause you to either dismiss your goal, put forth only a half- hearted effort, or thwart your own progress just as you're getting close to achieving what you thought you wanted. Imagine yourself as the new you with ease and grace, visualize the new things you will be doing right down to the last detail, hear the sounds that accompany the new visualization, smell the smells, see the new results as if they were already taking place, describe it, write it down. Say soothing, stress-relieving clearing statements to yourself - all this will program and encourage your mind to dissolve and release all fear and anxiety about the future, about the unknown, and about your ability to be happy with the 'new you.'
FAILURE PATTERN #8 Mentally 'blowing up' the size of your tasks and responsibilities
Regardless of their 'true' size, when tasks feel big and difficult, it's often hard to get motivated to even begin. Unless you can truly develop the mental habit of experiencing and plotting the steps toward your goal as small, manageable chunks, you'll cause yourself a lot of undue stress, you'll be less effective, and you may even give up on your aim altogether. By breaking down tasks or responsibility in small baby steps, and then putting just that much effort in to complete that small step - huge tasks and overwhelming responsibilities become small manageable chunks of time and effort. let go of the habit of seeing and feeling your important outcomes as huge, dangerous, impossible tasks, and focus on what you can do right now this minute to begin making a small difference. Small differences acumulate into big accomplishments.
FAILURE PATTERN #9 Blowing temporary setbacks up to seem huge and permanent
No matter what you're undertaking, whether it's a physical, financial, professional, mental or social goal, there are bound to be short-term setbacks on the way. When temporary setbacks 'look or feel' large, unsolvable and permanent, you get trapped into a state that doesn't allow you to get answers, or have access to all your mental and physical resources. Unless you can totally accept that setbacks will occur and keep them in perspective when they do, you are open to worry, anxiety and depression...and are likely to quit. Persistent, consistent, positive effort creates perseverance. Stumbling blocks are just a bump in the road they are not "Black Holes" that will swallow you alive. The truth is every single problem has a solution and you can condition your mind to see stumbling blocks as challenges and opportunities to overcome them and keep your problems small in your mind, so that you can think clearly and make the right decisions when they need to be made.
FAILURE PATTERN #10 Constant mental pictures of future failure or tragedy
It's always wise to plan for the unexpected, but... ...When you focus a bulk of your mental activity on what could go wrong; if you see nothing but rotten images and failure, it is impossible to be optimistic and hopeful. Disaster thinking, or focusing only on what can go wrong causes you a lot of needless anxiety. And then you're many times more likely to take the 'easy way out' and quit on your goal. The truth is each and every shadow has a light on the other side to cast that shadow. You can command your mind to throw away all pictures of gloom and doom, so you can be open to and embrace the light of your successes. See the opposite outcome and over and over in your mind and imagine yourself stepping into that picture.
FAILURE PATTERN #11 Developing real physical symptoms & illnesses
The 10 mental patterns listed above can cause incredible anxiety, hopelessness and ultimately, prevent you from getting what you want. Physical symptoms can arise from the stress, including stomach problems, rapid pulse, headaches, high blood pressure, fatigue, sleeplessness, and even some cancers. Our unconscious minds can also conjure up psychosomatic symptoms in order to 'help' us avoid facing things we don't wish to face or to give us an excuse to quit. The truth is the mind is a power tool and the power of beliefe can create "a reality in your life" Thoughts become things. People with multiple personalities have been known and scientifically documented to change their blood chemistry when they shift to the personality that has diabeties in a matter of seconds. Stomach cancers in these people magically appear and disappear just a quickly when they shift from one person to the other. Just think if this powerful process of belief and knowing were consistently reversed to thoughts of health and well-being?
Those are the 11 patterns of failure. How many times did you see yourself? In addition, now you have a better understanding as to why clearing is so vital. These failure patterns are so strong and controlling, they absolutely must be rewired if you want to succeed in making a change in yourself or reaching a goal. During the clearing process... As the thought and belief patterns that are unsupportive to your goal appear(whether it's starting a habit, ending a habit, increasing confidence ect.) take a contrary action to make a dent in the pattern. Belief patterns are getting reversed and scrambled whenever you take actions that are opposite to your unwanted old patterns. Take the word "can’t" out of your vocabulary and start using empowered, can- do thoughts and attitudes common to people who have easily achieved the same change or goal you are after. So as your new thoughts and belief patterns get conditioned into you through new behavior, it will gradually start to seem natural and easy to do the things that may now seem frightening or impossible... ...Just like the people who feel and perform exactly how you want to feel and perform. They learned thier behaviors and got thier results through practicing them over and over till they became natural character traits.
The "truth’s" we operate on are often lies we have told ourselves over a period of years. Whether they were voiced by others, created over one time traumatic experiences we have had, or were slowly ingrained over time in conjunction with behaviors to accompany them. They can be changed through the same process of learning new behaviors, actions, which become thoughts and finally new beliefs.
The choice to change is yours and yours alone - if you back your new choices up with clear consistent action and follow through over a period of time......you will create the new person you want to be and live the life that you formerly imagined will become your reality.
Change your "truth" and you change your life!
What do you want your life to look like? Make a healthy choice! And make that choice your truth.